This is a communication game that can be adapted and played in families, among friends, and in organizations. The variant presented below has the elements of a family game.
Let’s play
What should I do with me, with us (the couple), with you (the children) at home? For example, to give you a present. Where do I get it? Out of the palm of your hand.
Give an imaginary gift to one of your family members. Don’t think about what you will give. Just make the gift gesture The game continues like this:
“This is my present for you.”
The receiver mimes opening the gift:
– Oh, thank you. Here I see …(and say what they would like to receive specifically from you, the giver: it can be an object, a trip, an expedition, an invitation, an appreciation, a promise, a change in your attitude, etc.).
Surprised or not by the gift the other person found, you go on:
— I knew you would like it because I know about you that… (you are, you like, you want, you can, you know, you do, you would, etc.).
Then switch roles. Do several rounds. Be brave in formulating your desire. If you have been thinking about a trip to the most remote islands or an ascent of Everest for a long time, now is the time to formulate it with courage. Or maybe you want the person who just gave you the gift to be more considerate: “Oh, thanks. Here I see you’ve started turning off the lights when you leave the house.”
However, you may be very surprised by the gift that the other person wants. Try to find the reason behind the desire.
What old expectations does it cover or what needs? Has he talked about them before or are you hearing them for the first time?
I look forward to your comments and the discoveries you have made about yourself and about others.
